A few weeks ago I shared an elevator with a young, dark skinned black man and a white woman. The woman, like many others in this position, pulled her purse close to her and darted her eyes to and fro. He was clearly a delivery person. I looked at her and shook my head. I wanted to stand really close to her on purpose and say “not all black people are a threat.”
Too often men say they are not heard or seen unless they are on the 6 o’clock news being shuffled away by police or in a body bag. People gloss over these scenarios as just “our way of living.” In a culture sometimes filled with fear and pride all mixed together, it’s hard for people to see ALL the issues others face. According to the CDC greater than 70% of black women in their 20’s have never been married and that’s much higher than counterparts in other races. Where does this leave our sons? Consider this:
Life as a minority is much different than 50 years ago, but that does not mean it’s all good! Even with more black owned businesses and minorities in the workplace what are we not seeing?
Has the black man been forgotten because workplaces balance their equal opportunity quotas with other minorities instead? It’s no secret that life for black men has never been easy and it hasn’t changed completely. Today’s man still has to work much harder to fit in once they go outside of their communities AND not come across as threatening. At the same time we do see more young black males cross color barriers when it comes to relationships, but how does that help the black man?
There are things we should know and do when it comes to our men but we are NOT doing or acknowledging them:
Beaten down by all the rhetoric of day to day living can cause even the strongest to falter. Certainly REAL men need to step up to the plate and do what they need to do on purpose, but it’s no help when people compete to wear their pants for them or even worse strip them of them!
I challenge you this day to support your men, your sons, brothers, uncles and male counterparts daily. Incarceration and separation should not be the accepted norm in our lives. To be built up so they can step up, we must give a hand up! blacklifecoaches
A lot was said here that matters great post #MakeMovesDattMatter
@ VINCENT NOTHING CAN CHANGE WHAT IS IN YOU
really good post!!!
I SAY START OUR OWN AND SUPPORT OUR OWN!!! GET SOME BANKS, LAW FIRMS, ACCOUNTING OFFICES, AND ALL KINDS OF COMMERCE GOING AND SUPPORT IT MAJORLY...CONNECT WITH OTHERS IN THE AFRICAN DIASPORA AND KEEP THIS MOVING
I feel u on this.